The Nervous Top’s Guide To Scene-Building & Negotiation - Recorded Live July 9, 2025

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Original Workshop Description:

Building a k!nk scene can be an intimidating prospect! At all levels of experience it is so easy to overthink, get nervous, and doubt ourselves. During this workshop, we’ll shine a light on how to reduce some of the stress from negotiating and scene-building. Using practical examples and drawing from real-life failures and successes, Dare will guide attendees through how they:

• Negotiate with someone new or for a new kind of play
• Keep track of what they negotiated
• Centre and support themselves emotionally and physically before, during, and after the scene
• Build a sense of place, purpose, and connection in their scenes
• Create an environment where their bottom is better able to communicate with them before, during, and after the scene

Time will be set aside for questions and answers and specific troubleshooting. Please note: This is not a hands-on workshop and will not involve teaching any physical topping skills.

This class is open to all attendees with any experience level over the age of 18.

About Dare:

Dare Campbell (they/them) is a sexuality and relationship educator and coach based in Tkaranto (Toronto, Ontario). They are a proudly queer, non-monogamous, pleasure-affirming community member who loves to facilitate discussions and experiences that strengthen relationships and encourage a sense of curiosity and exploration. Their education and coaching focus areas include self-love & acceptance, consent, communication, non-monogamy, & power exchange. An intersectional lens informs Dare’s coaching and workshop facilitation, recognizing that we live in a complex world with many identities, needs, and desires, and are often subject to systems that actively cause us harm. Dare is invested in growing their anti-oppressive practices. They welcome any feedback on how to make their teaching more accessible and inclusive.

In their classes and coaching, Dare provides participants with tools and examples that help them communicate more clearly and authentically with themselves and their partners. Dare believes that a collaborative approach, focused on creating a sense of safety and shared vulnerability, is the key to great sex, connection, and a love-filled life. They can be reached at their website https://www.learngrowrepeat.ca/.